Its not like i'm super conservative with one's sexual behavior and past history..just that i had a higher threshold then i knew i had.

Sure, one night stands and casual sex are bound to happen.

But i can't seem to get around the thought of my partner, of a serious relationship to have numerous one night stands and a few fuck buddies before, in a few year's span. For someone, like me, who still thinks sex is precious in a way, this puts an uncomfortable feeling in my heart.

The thought that he could go completely uncontrolled with his sexual desires scares me sometimes. But the past is the past, right?

If your partner had a wild sexual history before you, how would you feel and what would you do to get over it/ not get over it?

Let's keep it short and simple. We fall into their traps and got engulfed in flames. So what is that magic that they have?

Reason 1: They are the "unknown". They are mysterious and yet compelling because they don't blabber everything about themselves since they met you. You yearn for them and want to know what they are like.

Reason 2: Because they are the "unknown", they are fun and dangerous. Quite unlike the honest dude whom you went out before right? *yawn*

Reason 3: They know the right timing. When to shower you with attention and when to give you that charming smile. They know how to build up tension over time, making you want them A LOT more than they want you. Flirting with their eyes and words for a few hours/few days/few weeks before they actually plant a kiss on you, so that you feel absolutely swept away and be engulfed in what we believe to be "passion".

Reason 4: Their words don't cost a thing, so its fairly easy to whisper sweet nothings and trust me, sweet nothings are a KILLER for women. Who doesn't like to be serenaded?

Reason 5: They are "gentlemen". They treat you like a princess before they sweep you away (not on your feet but off their doorsteps).

Reason 6: They build up hope and expectation for you, creating a delusional world for you and making you believe that being together with him is the best ever (ahem) by above reasons of 1-5.

Reason 7: They ditch you just when you wanted it the most and that really stayed in your head. You always crave what you can't have. Sad but true.

Reason 8: They are usually way more experienced with women and know you maybe even better than yourself.

Do you remember how your last break up ended? Did it end in misery, with both parties not speaking to each other? Or parties remaining as friends? Or just one party wanted to be friends?

As to the last situation, i personally think that this one party is really not too considerate in a sense, please note: it's just a personal opinion, maybe different for everyone. I happened to know that one party. She broke up with her boyfriend due problems of distance.  She wanted to stay friends with him because she missed him being around when she's encountering problems in her life. After the break up, she seemed to be functioning rather well though. Dating other guys, having fun. Just occasionally missing her ex when her dates are not as good as she hoped to be. The guy, obviously still very upset about the break up did not really initiate any contact with her, hoping to sort out his feelings beforehand.

She asked me why he didn't initiate contact with her, even though he promised to. I guess the answer is pretty simple and i also speculate that her question pops out only because she misses someone to care for her genuinely and not because of missing THE PERSON himself. Because she misses being loved. Not a crime really, everyone wants to be loved. But i think sometimes  we have to be fair. If you are already moving on somehow, maybe not entirely, but the other person is still caught up in the pain, the best is just to leave him alone and let him heal. No matter how much you want to call, refrain is the key.

She didn't want to get back with him though. Not because its too late, but because she think she cannot change her ways of heavy partying and being too emotional/needy. She has every right to think that way, but in that case, perhaps its a little cruel to her ex to expect him to contact her and stay friends, no matter how in love they were before.